In the pretext of breaking the so-called nonexistent ice, the seniors take advantage of the juniors, who are vulnerable, new to the place and nervous about college life. While for some, it might be a laughing matter, for others it is a matter of fear and shame. And sometimes, even murder. It has many negative undertones to it.
Ragging & Low Self-Esteem:
The self-esteem of the student that has been ragged in college takes a dive and tumbles out into humiliation. This can ultimately lead to depression.
Ragging & Depression:
You must remember that depression is something that one cannot see on the outside. “It is like cancer, one cannot easily see it. If not attended to, the coping mechanisms can take on a very negative side” says, Avni, school counselor for Vibgyor.
Ragging & Suicide:
A simple key word search on Google will show you how dangerously related these two words can be. Many cannot take the shame and the humiliation that they feel after being ragged. For them, the only form of escape is death. Never to face that bully again, never to hide in the shadows, never to deal with fear.
Such was the case with Venkata Krishna. To read his story, click here
Can it get more serious than this? It is time we stopped making light of so great a matter! Before it claims another life, before it plunges another young mind into despair, it is time we take a stand!
But how do we do it you ask? In your own little way! Here are a few small steps that you can take to make this world safer for our young people.
1) Be vigilant.
2) Be careful who you develop friendships with in college. Always remember to draw the line.
3)Stay in touch with your parents all the time.
4)Report! Report!! REPORT!!!
5)Be on the lookout for any students that may seem withdrawn from class or other social activities within the campus; it is possible that they have withdrawn due to humiliation.
6)Inform your parents about the possibilities of ragging in your college.
Before it takes another murder to bring the wheels of this nation to a grinding stop, let’s put caution to the winds and stop the ‘ragging’ mania. Let’s make our colleges and schools ragging free, bully free, fear free and shame free! It’s in your hands and mine!
8 Ways to Deal with Ragging
8 Ways to Deal with Ragging
Ragging should never be taken lightly. It is better to face it head on and deal with it the right way than to remain silent and let it slide by. Here are a few ways to deal with this issue.
1. Be well informed:
Know this; Ragging in India is wrong. Bullying is wrong. Making someone uncomfortable is wrong. There is no law that supports it, and there is no place in society for this. If you have faced any of this, or know someone that has faced this, know that they have been wronged and take action!
2. Talk to authorities:
Ragging in college is a serious issue. So if you have been a victim of ragging or feel that you might be, talk to the authorities of the institution. You can approach a counselor that may notify the authorities. Keeping silent about this issue not only glorifies the act of ragging, it only gives more fuel to the seniors to carry on with their harmful deeds. Remember, do NOT stay quiet!
3. Report if witnessed:
If you have witnessed a ragging scene and have NOT reported it, I hate to tell you this, but you are as guilty as the ones that have initiated the ragging. Don’t be a spectator! Take pro-active steps to help fight this menace in society. Play your part in making colleges a safe and secure place for students, just like you!
4. Be specific:
This is crucial. When you report of a case of ragging in college to the authorities, make sure you are specific in what they have asked you to do or say while being ragged. Reporting the incident word to word will help the authorities know what has exactly happened and take strict action accordingly against those that have done this to you!
5. Bring your parents in the loop:
This is equally important as the one above! Bringing your parents in the loop! If you have ever been asked to do anything demeaning or that you are not comfortable with, tell your parents! Let them know! They will not only reach out to your college, but also support you and love you through all the tough times!
6. Make the ‘right’ friends:
Ensure that you get to know everyone from your batch. There is strength in numbers. Being friends with your peers will not only give you strength and make you bolder, but you are less likely to be a target if you are in a group or with your friends.
7. Never protect:
I cannot say this enough; NEVER protect anyone that has ragged you. For whatever reasons they have done this, they were wrong. So never keep silent. Never fear them. Cause, the law is on your side! The college is on your side! Your parents are on your side! You do not have to fear them! You do not have to cower and hide. Be brave! Step up and speak out!
8. Be aware:
As a fresher, it is important for you to take the time and find out all the laws and policies of the college with regards to ragging. If there is an anti-ragging vigilance squad in your institution, get their contact information, talk to them about ragging and be in touch with them. Reach out to them when you feel you might be in danger.
Sure, it can be a fun way to break the ice between juniors and seniors, but there is a very thin line between fun and danger. Ragging in India can be stopped once and for all if we take these tiny little steps to stop this menace.
Top 4 reasons why Ragging Happens
Top 4 reasons why Ragging Happens
1. The cool factor:
Most try to establish authority in the form of inflicting pain on their juniors by making them aware who the boss is. They believe that this helps establish their cool factor not only to their peers but also to the juniors.
2. Broken Homes:
Most bullies that have been spoken to or counseled have admitted coming from broken homes and families. If the child has not known love and care but only violence and abuse they tend to carry it on as they grow older. The result? Bullying or ragging. It’s a dangerous habit that needs trimming at its very roots.
How can we not mention the popular reality TV show. The audition scenes are markedly and dangerously similar to ragging. Making fun of the participants, humiliating them etc is all tagged as normal in the show. Students watching this, try to imitate it in reality, taking it sometimes, one step too far.
Perhaps, someone somewhere has belittled them. Called them names. Made them feel less about themselves. The rough and tough exterior might be hiding a broken and pained heart. Hiding the insecurity that no one sees.
It takes a lot for one human to commit atrocities against another. After all, even those ragging are still students. With a little understanding and counseling, maybe we can help them get out of the rut and anger that they are stuck in.
So, next time you see someone like this; make it a point to help them understand that it’s not cool or brave to hurt another soul! Instead they must seek help for their indecent and inhuman behavior.