It’s Valentine’s Day, and you haven’t found your true love just yet. Is getting under the sheets and binging on random TV shows the only game-plan? Not necessarily! Here are 10 things you can do when you’re Single on Valentine’s Day.
Note for the Wise:
All activities listed below require at least a week of planning; much like any Valentine’s Day date. If you want to be a good partner in the future, planning in advance will be a good skill to have. Planning these activities will hold you in good stead later on!
1. Have a Bro’s night out (or a hen-party!)
Just get the guys and go out to town; Either visit the mall, or the beach or a park. The idea is not to stay by yourself. Getting the guys/gals together in itself is a task. But once that obstacle is cleared, your bound to have a lot of fun together 2. Game Night!
Remember Pictionary? Or Dumbcharades? Or Monopoly? Or any of those board-games you played as a kid? It’s time to revisit those game-nights. This activity involves finding/buying said board-games and convincing your friends that it is going to be fun. I can guarantee you that you’ll not want to stop once you started! 3. Chuck a Frisbee
Remember those times when you used to throw the ball as high as possible, and then try and catch it? Take your friends out to the beach, or to a park, or some open-air place, and play a game of frisbee, or football, or cricket; or simply catch. You know you need the exercise. And your friends will thank you for it! 4. Have fun with people less privileged than you are
See the activity above? You can do the exact same thing in a poorer neighborhood. Watch the kids crawl out of the wood-work and watch you play. Ask them to join in. The more the merrier. When you allow them to have fun with you you’ll realize that you’re having way more fun than usual! The best way to remain happy is to make someone else happy. 5. Invite friends to a home-made dinner
This does involve hard-work, and sweat. But there’s nothing more satisfactory than watching your friends enjoy the food you cooked!Don’t cook by yourself either. Get a few friends in advance to help you in the kitchen. It’s a lot more fun when you’re doing it together! 6. (Hostelites only; Men) Post Dinner Indoor Cricket/Football
You’ll have to talk to the warden ahead of time for this one. Just let him know what you’ll be up to; tell them it’s just one night, and you’ll take responsibility for everything, and make sure everything is wound up at a particular time. Then form teams ahead of time. Just the excitement for the game will help you enjoy the day! 7. (Hostelites only; Ladies) Post Dinner Hostel party
You’ll have to talk to the warden ahead of time for this one. Just let him know what you’ll be up to; tell them it’s just one night, and you’ll take responsibility for everything, and make sure everything is wound up at a particular time. Then decide a theme for your party; get friends to decorate the common-area, collect your donations from the rest, and bring in the snacks, music and drinks! It’s party all the way! 8. Entertain at an old-aged Home/orphanage
This may be more for the artistically inclined. Try and cheer up the orphanage with a bunch of indoor ice-breaking games, some sports, if possible, or perhaps you could teach them some cool new dance-moves, or new songs. It really depends on what you and your friends are good at. The idea is to share your gifts and talents with those who have no access to them. Watching the excitement on their faces as they watch you perform/play will give you the high you need! 9. Dinner out with 5 friends (or more)
Why should couples have all the fun! Reserve tables for 5-10 at romantic hotels, and take all your friends there! Dutch payment of course! And just enjoy a romantic dinner with a big gang! 3 heads are definitely better than two! 10. Movie date with all single friends.
Again, why should you only go to movies with your soulmate? Go with your friends, and watch that new release! You’ll definitely laugh much louder with your gang than with a person you’re trying to impress! Why waste the opportunity?
Perhaps you want to do something like this for Valentines’, but don’t have the courage., we’ll be happy to help you - for free. Maybe you’re new in a particular place, or don’t have many friends to do these things with. Just give us a call, @18004254460 and we’ll try and hook you up! No worries! Valentine’s day doesn’t necessarily mean, having fun with a special someone. It is a day of love; so let us help you show your love to people in ways you’ve never done before!
How to get over your Ex
How to get over your Ex
It happens every time - a relationship that was so good suddenly ends. But you can’t help feeling down in the dumps. Even though it’s been weeks, or months since. You seem to see their face on every one when you go out. But most of the time, you’d rather curl up in bed and cry your eyes out.
What can you do to get out of this cycle?
Don’t feel sorry for yourself
One thing we keep doing to ourselves is to go over the break-up over and over again, and try and fantasize other ways you could have handled it. It’s a natural thing to do, but it won’t allow you to move on.
Every time your mind takes you to those places, try and think of how you would behave yourself in the future. Not in future relationships, but just as a person, in the future. How you can change to become a better version of yourself; and try and act on those thoughts.
Keep your friends close to you
This is a time when you actually want to stay away from your friends; at least until you feel better. But actually, this is the time you should hang out with friends. This will actually feel outside your comfort zone, and you may feel awkward around them because of what you’re feeling inside you. But by doing this you’re actively moving on in life. Start listening to your friends, and get involved in their lives; and share yourself with them deeply.
You will find that that hole in your heart slowly losing shape, as it heals.
Make new friends
Make an active effort to meet new people and make new friends outside your usual circle, especially if there are friends there that are friends with your ex. Take a new exercise class, or find other circles where you can make new friends. Just going out and meeting other people will help bringing in the warmth and community within you.
Do things that excite you
Now that you are by yourself, you are suddenly free to do many things. One of the things you can fill your time with is by hobbies. However, this once again, requires you to pick yourself up. Before, it would have been your partner who would have been the reason you got out of bed and done things. Now you have to realign your mind and do things to better yourself, and give yourself happiness. It requires discipline, but it will keep your mind away from other things.
It’s the attitude.
It’s all very well, making new friends, and doing new things, keeping busy and having fun. But the moment you get back home and get into bed, your thoughts can really get the better of you and put you in a bad spin. How can you control your thoughts here?
Well, we are all built to live for something that’s more than ourselves, and that’s why in spite of all the tips above, there’ll still be that ache within. The only way to get rid of the hole altogether is to devote yourself thoroughly to something else that’s not yourself. It could be God, a cause, or your friends, but that will really help you move on.
There is a story about a boy who played video games every day for 8 hours straight. His mother tried to pry him off the computer many times, but couldn’t. He ran to the computer the first thing after school. But one day, suddenly, he did not come back to the computer, and it was soon left dusty. What happened? He had met a new girl in school. Your love can change if you suddenly desire something else more than what you’re hooked on at the moment..
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Things to keep in mind before getting into a relationship
Things to keep in mind before getting into a relationship
You’ve found that special someone, and you’re considering asking that person into a special relationship. But have you taken everything into account? (Disclaimer: This article isn’t for those looking for flings/one-night stand fun)
Short Term Relationship
Is your relationship going to be a long term-relationship? If so, how long? Few weeks? Until you finish college? A couple of years until you find something else? Everyone can choose their own path, but we recommend that short-term relationships do not come without their problems, and here they are.
There will be a point where the two of you will have to break-up. Even if you go about it very meticulously, both of you cannot get out of the relationship without heart-ache which you will have to endure.
Short-term relationship now means, you’ll be eventually entering another relationship with a previous partner; and this usually makes you have baggage. Your relationship with your previous partner will affect your relationship with your future partner.
If you’re still reading this, we’re assuming that you don’t believe in short-term relationships. You want to go for the long-haul. Marriage or bust. Now, are you ready to commit this long-term with that person you like? If you’re not, then your next task is simple. Move on even before anything starts. But if you are ready to commit to that person your entire life, then these are the things you need to keep in mind.
Commitment means sticking together after the rosy hues of dating is over; and when the little things become big. Whether they would allow you to get married, and how much you are ready to go against their wishes. Where you want to settle down for the rest of your life; what kind of job will you be working in; how will the house look like?
Am I scaring you?
Because the long-term ones are scary. But they are definitely rewarding.
Things you need to consider
Your parents’ wishes. Your parents come from a different generation from you, and while you can sneak a short-term relationship behind their backs, a long-term one resulting in marriage requires your parents, and your larger family’s approval. You’ll have to either re-consider your choice or standing up to your family.
Job paths. Sometimes the two of you may choose different careers, and may have a different idea of what work is; or you may even want to live in separate locations. These are things you need to consider before you move forward. Yes, most of marriage is compromise and adjusting, but if you hear warning bells at this stage, it’s better to wait a little longer.
Hopes for the future You may want to be down-to-earth, teach in a school and bring up the underprivileged, while they may want to settle down at Beverly Hills in her late forties. If both of you have different dreams, this is going to affect your own sanity in the future. This is definitely a red-light.
Surety Listen to your intuition. Sometimes, even if all the checkboxes are ticked, there may be something gnawing at the back of your head, that you can’t explain. That’s your instinct talking to you. Listen to it, and avoid the relationship. You’ll be saving yourself from a potential failure; and that’s something you don’t want to get into.
Because there is little on earth worse than the pain you feel when you break off with someone you thought you would spend the rest of your life with.
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