3 Signs to know that your friend is faking "Happiness"

3 Signs to know that your friend is faking "Happiness"

  • Someone has rightly said, "Smiling has always been easier than explaining why you are sad". And that is true for so many of us and our friends. Many times we come across vibrant and cheerful personalities only to know later they were not happy but just pretending to be. Fake people have an image to maintain, while the real people just don't care.
  • We sometimes envy friends who are always positive and on the go. At times, we even wonder howlife has been so good to them how it has taken the opposite route with us. The fact remains that all of us go through good and bad times; the only difference being, some are able to mask it and some cannot.
  • Here are 3 signs to show that your friend is faking Happiness:
  • 1. Always Positive
    There is no doubt that one should have a positive attitude in life, however if your friend is just doing big talks and building castles just to make an illusion of things and a kind of show for the world to see but deep down has not conviction then it is fake positivity.
  • 2.Snub Invitations
    If your friend is really happy inside out then he would not always find reasons to escape social gatherings. They will either pretend to be occupied or not interested in hanging out or attend a social gathering invitation.
  • 3. Can't take a compliment
    If your friend is complimented however you get a response like, "I am still not there I have a long way to go" or they may say "you will not understand how much trouble it was to get it done" they are probably not as happy as they seem to be. In short, if your friend is a happy person chances are that he will involve words, "Thank you."
    Behind every fake smile there is a broken heart. Only a best friend can see the true pain behind the fake smile. There are millions of tears that are hidden behind fake smiles, sometimes you see them and the rest you just know they are there. You can find the difference just like a switch that gets turned on and off with a wonderful BIG FAKE SMILE!

Chasing the Wind

Chasing the Wind

  • It was during lunch hour at the office cafeteria. A colleague of mine glanced at the other and said, "Congratulations Madam! I heard it was your wedding anniversary yesterday. How many years since you are married?" Pat came the reply, "hmm...don't remind me that friend... I made that fatal mistake 10 years ago!" The whole group burst into laughter! "True... I too made that error 12 years ago", roared another!
  • Regret is a deep emotion that has the ability of tormenting us immensely!
  • Recently, we met an old man who left his wife and the only son to live in an 'old age home'.
  • In his prime, he was a Senior Officer with a reputed Engineering company and spent most of his woken hours in office. By the time he retired, his wife had grown apart from him and he was almost like a stranger for his son. Slowly, his health started failing. Both his wife and the grown-up child found it inconvenient to have him around. At last, with a broken heart, he decided to leave his house and when he actually left, there were none to shed tears! To quote his own words – "I was a mere ATM for them"!
  • The trouble is the 'lack of understanding' about what would give us ultimate happiness. Many in the corporate world think that reaching a CEO-level is the 'ultimate nirvana' in life. Those who scaled that height think of becoming the CEO of a greater Company and once achieved that they start dreaming about how to become the 'Owner' of such a Company! The funny thing is that the 'Owner' himself is spending sleepless nights figuring out how to hang around there without being edged out by market forces!! Even the 1st in Fortune-500 is chasing the dream of continuing there... And do what? No idea!
  • For some 'lesser mortals' like us, life is all about future - ensuring a 'good retirement' and the 'well being of children' in future. In the process, the 'present' is completely lost. While the 'future' of Spouse and Children drives us today, the current relationship with them is completely ignored.... Chasing the wind, ends up in ultimate regret!

How to be Happier in Life

How to be Happier in Life

  • Happiness is a journey not a destination. It is all about making progress. Some say that we do not need to pursue happiness but create it. Being a happy person does not mean that everything is perfect. It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections. But if you think there is no way you could possibly be ever a happier person, then you might want to read on to find out.
  • Here are 7 simple steps to a happier you.
  • 1. Stay Positive
    An old saying 'you find what you look for' is true. Positive thinking is not only good for overall happiness; it's good for your physical health and boosts the immune system too.Positive thinking is an important component of self-esteem and overall satisfaction.
  • 2. Giving
    Studies suggest that happiest people are the biggest givers no matter how much they earn. And sometimes it's not all about money - we can give our time, energy, love and care. Spending on others in any way is the most fundamental key to a happier life.
  • 3. Social Life
    It is now clear that people with friends and loved ones around are less likely to experience sadness, loneliness, low self esteem etc., They provide love, meaning and support and increase our feelings of self-worth. Hence investing in good relationships is essential for happiness.
  • 4. Gratitude
    Gratitude is being able to appreciate what we have now instead of constantly wanting more and more. It is a way of living that has shown many benefits in terms of health, happiness, satisfaction with life and the way we relate to others. Think back over the past week and write down what you are grateful or thankful for.
  • 5. Goal Setting
    We all need goals to motivate us. People who set objectives for themselves-whether it's short-term or long term- are happier than those who don't. Choosing ambitious but realistic goals gives our lives direction and brings a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when we achieve them. Working towards a goal not just activates positive feelings but also suppress negative emotions.
  • 6. Exercise
    Exercise not only keeps your weight in check but can also increase your happiness quotient. Exercise helps you ease anxiety and boosts your confidence. It is known to fight insomnia and stress. 'Dopamine' a chemical that plays a role in happiness is a neurotransmitter in the brain that is necessary for feelings of pleasure and happiness. So get off the couch and get some exercise going!
  • 7. Try Something New
    Learning fuels creativity. Learning involves interaction and the infusion of new ideas. It affects our well being in lots of positive ways. It gives us a sense of accomplishment and helps boost our self confidence. Ask yourself what new thing have you tried recently? Share a skill with friend or join a nature club or a new sport. There is so much to be involved in.

Pursuit of Happiness

Pursuit of Happiness

  • At some point this week most of us would have spoken or typed the words, "Happy Birthday!" or "Happy Anniversary!" or some such greeting with the "happy" prefix. Happy women's day, happy father's day, happy mother's day, happy teachers day. happy children's day ... the list goes on. Then during the festivals, we begin to throw some more happiness around. Happy new year, happy Holi, happy Dassera, happy Diwali, happy Id, merry Christmas. All these are genuine efforts to spread cheer, gladness and a generous dose of happiness.
  • With so much of happiness floating around, we must be the happiest race! However, research indicates the contrary. Not only are we an unhappy bunch, but in our country it is the young people who are least happy. Now, if we translate this data into real life, this is what it means: In India, a whole generation of people with the maximum amount of health, potential, life span, and opportunities are not really excited about the life that lies ahead of them.
  • They have to create careers but disorientation has destroyed their determination. They have to establish families but uncertainties have disillusioned them. They have to strengthen communities but corruption has weakened their will. They have to build the nation but distress has dulled their vision. Truth is that, the future looks very bleak and now its time to shed a tear.
  • Harping about the problem of happiness or the lack of it is not a happy exercise. So how do we still pursue this elusive phenomenon and ever be successful in finding it? Lets take a few paths and see where some simple logic leads us.
  • Most of us deposit our happiness in external circumstances. We are happy when everything around us is going exactly the way we had planned. For example, we are happy when we top the class or land a dream job or get the perfect spouse. Or the weather is good, or the stock market is moving in our favour, or the boss is in a good mood, or the children are in their best behaviour. So, when the scales are tipped in our favour we smile from ear to ear. But people who live in a real world know that a perfect day is usually not on the calendar. Circumstances around us change rapidly. So it will be foolish to latch our happiness on external sources.
  • The next option is to bind our source of happiness within ourselves. That way we can always control it and manipulate it and even decide the daily dosage. Or so we think! Are we unchangeable? Far from it! We are as fickle as our environment. Our temperatures soar, our moods swing, our hormones rage, our pressures fluctuate, our hearts palpitate, our heads get dizzy. There is very little stability or permanency even within the confines of our mind and body. Such a place does not offer a safe home for something as fragile as happiness.
  • The pursuit of happiness seems to be as seminal to human existence as life and liberty. So it is important that we determine for ourselves the source of our happiness. Pharell Williams seems to have pointed us in a certain direction when he sang "Happiness is the Truth". Herein lies a clue to the riddle of happiness. Find the Truth and happiness will come with it.