Going through a breakup can be a hard thing. It can be tough on the mind, body and soul. Heartbreak is never easy, but we are here to tell you that it is not something that you have to drown in. Read on to re-assure yourself that you WILL power through this difficult phase in your life.
You are NOT alone: If you just look around you, you will meet people who have been through the same thing and have come out stronger than before. Right from famous celebrities we see on tv to maybe the girl living next door, we have all endured heartaches in life.
This too shall pass: Right now it may seem like the pain will never end. That you are just falling and falling into an abyss of despair. And you may hit rock bottom too. But that's when you can go down no further. And from there on, you have nowhere to go but up. Just keep persevering!
There's always a learning curve: Whatever it is, you will be educated on something and that is what will go on to make you stronger in life. It's like gold that needs to go through fire over and over again until it has been refined into pure gold. Learn, accept and move on.
Help can be found: While it is okay to be on your own for a while, it is necessary to surround yourself with people that love you and care for you. You may have friends and family who care for you and would be also hurt seeing you struggle through it. Together things can really make a difference; just need to be willing to rise up! In the end all that matters is that you take care of yourself. Make it easier for yourself.
What NOT to do after a breakup
What NOT to do after a breakup
We've all heard things that one MUST do in order to move on from a breakup. But have you ever wondered what you must NOT do so that you don't sink deeper in that post break up mess? There are some things that you must avoid mainly because it doesn't help you or anyone around you either. Take a look below to find out what these are.
Revenge and Resentment:
Yes, you may have been cheated on. You probably feel betrayed. Mad. Angry. Hurt. Before you know it, resentment sets in. You want revenge. You want to make your ex feel the same pain that you feel. While it may seem like the sane thing to do, plotting and planning your revenge, it really isn't. It will not make you feel better, the pain remains AND it makes it harder for you to move on. You become angry and bitter and suddenly the happy person that you once were disappears. You become someone else.
Beating yourself up. It's the worst thing that you can do. Guilt over what you have lost, blaming yourself for the loss of the relationship. Maybe you feel you didn't work hard enough at it, maybe you feel you are the reason you split up. Whatever it maybe, the relationship has ended. The more you dwell on the what and the why and blame yourself for it, the more you hurt. You spiral down emotionally. Guilt can take you to a place where all you see is darkness. Seeing the light can get really hard. It doesn't help you recover, you lose your peace of mind, your sanity and maybe even your friends.
Refreshing that FB page:
The sooner you cut all ties and lose ends with your ex, the easier it becomes for your brain to command you to move on. The brain works in a funny way. Every time you refresh your ex's Fb page, keep track of his/her updates, your brain is storing those images and information. And it keeps reminding you of it. Your heart clings on to these and you cannot see past it. The quicker you decide to remove all the memories you've had with this person, the better for you. Every time you open that Fb page, you are feeding that longing, that yearning desire to still be a part of that person's life. You can NEVER move on, if you do not consciously make efforts to rid yourself of those feelings. Tried and tested!
You may feel that your life has ended. There is no purpose to life anymore. But listen! It isn't! It's just one chapter in your life that is over!! The rest of the pages are empty! Waiting for you to write on them! You have the pen in your hand and YOU can write the story. This is NOT the end!